Abrasion = Rubbing something rough against the skin to produce a sensation - can be either mild or harsh.

Animalization = Treating a submissive like an animal - usual animals are dogs or ponies.

Bareback (BB) = Unprotected anal sex

B&D = Bondage and discipline

BDSM = Bondage/Discipline/Sado/Masochism

Bear = An older, larger, hairier man who is most often also a Daddy figure.

Bestiality = Sex with real animals

Bottom = A man who prefers to take the receptive role in either anal or oral sex (likes to get fucked or give head).

Boy = A submissive man who gives up a level of control to his Master or Daddy.  This type of person prefers to retain some control over his life - be it career, social life, or some other aspect of their life.*

Branding = Use of a hot iron to place a permanent burn mark on a person's skin.

Bug Chaser = Someone who actively seeks to become HIV +.

Castration = Removal of the testicals.  Doing this tends to make an individual more docile (subservient) but it also has the effect of completely removing the person's sexual desires and muting many of their emotions.  People who have been castrated also tend to loose significant amounts of muscle definition and body hair.  Many of these "negative" side effects can be countered with testosterone shots - but doing this requires a prescription and can cause other side effects.  Consult a doctor before undergoing castration.  Remember this is a non-reversible process!

CBT = Cock and ball torture

Chastity = Required sexual abstinence through the use of devices to keep a man from getting hard or touching his cock.

Catherization = Inserting a hollow rubber tube into the "piss hole" of a cock to control and/or contain a person's urine.

Cub = A younger man, sometimes chubby who is a bear chaser.

Daddy = A dominant man who takes a father type role with the submissive(s) in his life.*

Dog = A submissive who feels that they are completely a dog in spirit - much like a transgendered individual feels they are a person born into a body of the wrong gender.*

Dog/Slave Hybrid (Hybrid) = A submissive who feels that they are partly a dog and partly a slave.  This person spends part of their life as a dog and part of their life as a human slave/boy.*

Dom/Dominant = A man who prefers to be in charge of a situation*

Electro = Electricity

Enemas = Using a liquid of some sort - usually a saline solution - to "clean out" the rectum to provide a "clean ass" to fuck or fist.  Can also be used as a stand-alone type of play.

Exhibitionism = Having sex or performing in some other way in front of other people.  Can be done either in public or private.

Felching = Eating cum (semen) out of a guy's ass - this is a high risk activity for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases as it generally requires unprotected anal sex.

Fisting = Inserting the hand/fist of the top into the bottom's ass instead of a cock or other anal toy.

Flogging = A form of whipping.  A flogger is a multi-tailed whip of 9 tails or more.

Gagging = Placing something into the submissive's mouth to reduce/eliminate verbal sounds

"Gift Giver" = Someone who is HIV + who purposely infects others with the virus through unprotected sex.  Sometimes done with the other person's consent and other times done without consent.

Hanky Code = A traditional form of signaling to others what your sexual preferences and interests are.  Gay men used this code to communicate with each other in the noisy and distracting environment of gay bars.  Although not as widely used these days, it is still a worthwhile resource.  It should be noted that some members of the heterosexual S&M community easily recognize and use these signals as well.

K9 = Real dogs - usually used in connection with bestiality play and puppy play.

Master = A dominant man who "owns" slaves or boys.*

Milking = Nonstop sexual stimulation forcing repeated orgasms - can be done either through normal sexual means (oral, anal, hand) or through the use of mechanical means.

M/s = Master/slave

No Limits = Someone who has no sexual limits.  This includes such things as body modifications, snuff, permanent marks, extreme play of any kind.  People who are truly no limits players are extremely rare.

Penectomy = Removal of the penis.  Most times this is done at the same time as a castration.

PnP = Party and Play.  Drug use.

Pony = A submissive who feels that they are partly or completely a horse/pony.  Primarily in role playing.*

POW = Prisoner of War.  The fantasy of being captured by enemy forces during wartime and tortured to gain military secrets.

Scat = Playing with shit

Slave = A submissive man who trusts his Master enough to give up complete control.  This type of person feels a need to give up this level of control.*

Snuff = Suicide/homicide fantasies

S&M = Sado/Masochism (pain play)

Sub/Submissive = A man who prefers to allow others to take control of a situation*

Top = A man who prefers to take the insertive role in either anal or oral sex (likes to fuck or get head).

Trainer = A dominant man who teaches submissives how to expand their limits and to "behave properly" as either a boy or a slave.*

TT = Tit torture

Voyarism = Watching other people have sex or perform in some way.

Whipping = Use of a single tailed whip

WS = Water sports/ golden showers/ piss play.




* Definitions for these items will vary from person to person.